The online dating site PlentyOfFish.com (PoF) gives you the option to take a personality test. It describes your personality in a lot of different areas, and describes how these will impact your relationships. Although it got most of me right, and this blog is about one area that I think it got right, that I am highly open to try to new things. It had a caution attached to this: "But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique." I found this intriguing and thought-provoking.
I can totally see what it's saying. It's like that movie Runaway Bride. In it, Julia Roberts' character likes her eggs cooked in whatever way her current fiance likes his eggs cooked. If he likes them scrambled, so does she. If the next one likes them over-easy, that's her favorite way to eat them. SPOILER (sorta): In the end, she finds herself, and realizes that she doesn't even like eggs! I've considered this phenomenon in relation to myself, but haven't thought hard about it. The PoF survey should make me stop and think. If I'm so open to new things, it might be really easy to conform to who I'm with. Especially since I think that I'm the kind of partner who wants to spend lots of time with their significant other, so that necessitates that we participate in the same activities. I don't want to drop my activities to do theirs!
I'm now more aware that it's a challenge of mine to keep my own things, my own quirks and unique hobbies. At the beginning of relationships, I find it exciting to learn about the person's life, to participate in their activities and meet their friends. May be because so much of that would be new to me. I imagine that most of these things would quickly become "not new" for me, and I'd want to continue to seek out new and exciting activities, though. I guess I need to find someone who is as passionate as I am for trying new things.
Also, I highly value independence, so being dependent on someone because I adapt to their (more stable? sedentary?) habits and interests is problematic for me, fundamentally.
Finally, how did PoF get me wrong? It said that I wasn't rigid or linear. Seriously? If you've read the Coffee Day blog, or know me AT ALL, you know that PoF totally got it wrong on that one!
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Coffee Day
Awhile ago, I instituted Coffee Day at work. I decided that drinking several cups of coffee a day, each with several tablespoons of creamer, was not helping my effort to eat healthier and lose weight.
There's been some confusion about Coffee Day, however. See, it only applies when I'm at work. For example, yesterday was not Coffee Day, so I had tea at work. Then I went out to dinner and had pie (for Pi Day), so of course I had coffee with my Red Velvet Cake cream pie. Because the after-dinner coffee was not at work, yesterday was not my Coffee Day.
Today is my Coffee Day because I had an early-morning reception at work. I was hoping for coffee and croissants, but only got the coffee part.
Anyway, now, I have fat-free creamer at work. So I'm re-thinking this whole Coffee Day plan. My biggest diet hurdle is fat, so may be I can drink unlimited creamed coffee if the creamer is fat-free? I might decide to make an exception to having only one Coffee Day a week while I have the fat-free creamer, but it makes for a somewhat unsatisfying cup of coffee so I probably won't get that kind again.
There's been some confusion about Coffee Day, however. See, it only applies when I'm at work. For example, yesterday was not Coffee Day, so I had tea at work. Then I went out to dinner and had pie (for Pi Day), so of course I had coffee with my Red Velvet Cake cream pie. Because the after-dinner coffee was not at work, yesterday was not my Coffee Day.
Today is my Coffee Day because I had an early-morning reception at work. I was hoping for coffee and croissants, but only got the coffee part.
Anyway, now, I have fat-free creamer at work. So I'm re-thinking this whole Coffee Day plan. My biggest diet hurdle is fat, so may be I can drink unlimited creamed coffee if the creamer is fat-free? I might decide to make an exception to having only one Coffee Day a week while I have the fat-free creamer, but it makes for a somewhat unsatisfying cup of coffee so I probably won't get that kind again.
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Conversation with IT Guy from Work
Note: IT Guy (ITG) has a somewhat thick accent. I think he's from Egypt. He's soft-spoken and uber-polite.
Me: Blah blah blah, the boxy thing that shows all of my files, Explorer or something, crashes when I use the web editor, blah blah.
ITG: I've actually never heard of that problem.
Me: So I'm special?
ITG: [apologetically] No, you're not special.
Me: What, I'm not special?
ITG: [nervously, and with some stammering] No, no, you're very special. Uh, I'll come over right away and see what I can do.
Super-sweet IT guy. He's fun to poke. But it's always at my expense, or I'm overly nice to him. I'm not the kind to play on someone's niceness or different social skills to be mean.
BTW, he never figured out the problem; Windows Explorer is still crashing on me when I'm updating our website.
Me: Blah blah blah, the boxy thing that shows all of my files, Explorer or something, crashes when I use the web editor, blah blah.
ITG: I've actually never heard of that problem.
Me: So I'm special?
ITG: [apologetically] No, you're not special.
Me: What, I'm not special?
ITG: [nervously, and with some stammering] No, no, you're very special. Uh, I'll come over right away and see what I can do.
Super-sweet IT guy. He's fun to poke. But it's always at my expense, or I'm overly nice to him. I'm not the kind to play on someone's niceness or different social skills to be mean.
BTW, he never figured out the problem; Windows Explorer is still crashing on me when I'm updating our website.
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